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The Lunar Woman, Solar Man, and Relationships

by Shakta Kaur


Presented at the "4th International Conference on Indian Knowledge Systems - Ayurveda and Yoga – Where Science Meets Consciousness" in Allahabad (during the Maha Kumbh Mela, February 16, 2013)


Woman is the like the moon. She waxes and wanes. Man is like the sun--constant, stationary, shining from dawn to dusk and dusk to dawn. Everything grows because of the moon. Everything ripens because of the sun. And everything is conceived because of the combination of those two polarities of male and female, sun and moon. That is where the problem begins as well! Not understanding the basic nature of man and woman causes strife, pain and tremendous hardship.


Women are not born to suffer, but they do. Women are not born to be unhappy, but many are unhappy. Women give birth to doctors, psychologists, avatars. Men want women, men leave women, and men beat women. Men love women, men hate women, and men divorce women. On this most beautiful planet there is nothing but misunderstanding in the roles of the Lunar Woman, Solar Man, and their Relationships.


The Lunar Woman

Humankind has long recognized how the lunar cycles interact with Mother Earth—in the ocean tides, plant and hair growth, animal rhythms and even a woman’s hormonal cycle. Lunar energies also influence our emotional equilibrium. The energy of the moon interacts with the micro- and macro-cosmos, our bodies and the universe, in other words, ‘as above, so below.’Moon points are physical areas located on the human body, sensitive to lunar energies. A male has one moon point at the chin. Hair grows on his moon point, absorbs solar energy and neutralizes the lunar effect. By nature, a male is primarily influenced by the solar energy.


A woman has 11 moon points which affect her emotional state. She moves in sequence from one moon point to another every 2 ½ days. In the 28 days of the menstrual cycle, a woman’s moon can be found in one of the eleven different areas of the body, called the eleven limbs of the woman.


The moon center sequence begins in the womb. In fact, the moon center sequence begins just after conception. This is the subtlest cycle that a woman can experience. It contains the answers to many patterns that have mystified women (and the men in their lives). Women may be labeled as emotional or unpredictable, always changing their minds, delivering the unexpected from day-to-day. In reality, the woman has simply moved to a different moon center. Every 2 ½ days when the woman cycles to a different moon center she sees the world through the quality of that moon center. As her moon center changes her mood changes. If she is aware of her moon center sequence she can feel that underlying quality.


Here is a list of the woman’s 11 moon points and the different qualities associated with them:


Hairline: the arc line—steadiness, stability, divine clarity, reality.

Cheeks: unpredictability, emotional instability.

Lips: verbal, interactive, communicative.

Ear Lobes: intelligence, concern with values and ethics.

Back of the Neck: sensitivity, romance.

Breasts: divine compassion, giving (can be to the point of foolishness).

Belly Button/Corresponding area on the Back: insecure, exposed, vulnerable.

Inner Thighs: confirmative, verifying, affirming.

Eyebrows: illusionary, imaginative, visionary.

Clitoris: external, talkative in social settings.

Vagina: depth, sharing in personal or cultural cycle.


A woman’s moon center sequence may not follow the exact order as the list above. For example, it may move from the Ear Lobes to the Hairline instead of from the Ear Lobes to the Back of the Neck.


A woman’s moon center sequence is uniquely her own. It does not depend on the actual phase of the moon or of her menstrual cycle.


Once a woman has determined her personal moon center sequence she can follow it throughout her life. It will not change to match those of the other women in her life. It may change, however, if she is subjected to trauma. It may also change in intensity after menopause, i.e., the fluctuations in emotions from moon to moon may be subtler than before. Using kinesiology (muscle testing) or a pendulum are two ways to determine a woman’s moon center sequence.


The Solar Man

The male moon center on the chin has hair on it, therefore, it is steady. Woman must be able to look to the man for inspiration and stability. Otherwise, he has nothing to offer. Then it becomes a matter of existence and not of relationship. The side of the moon which shines looks towards the sun. The man must be stable as a magnet, which attracts to itself but itself does not move, while she, being the changeable moon is never stationary and therefore never secure.


The man is to be a source of strength and stability and security. His duty is to make her secure both materially and spiritually. The woman must know that her male will provide for her.